motherhood

Do what feels right for you and your baby to find your sweet spot.

I have been feeling really crappy for a couple of months now. It starts in the late afternoon. I feel tired – but not sleepy tired, tired like I’ve just gone for a super long run. I can’t drink enough water. At 4:30 p.m. on the nose, I sprint out of my office, frequently having to dash back in to grab the pumped milk I forgot, pick up my daughter from daycare, drive home, try to carry a fussy...

Avoid the mom guilt

I ran into a good friend at work this week and she has an 8 month old so we aren’t walking that far apart from each other in our journey. We exchanged the normal, quick 5 minute synopsis of our lives in the hallway. We asked each other about the important stuff: “How’s the baby?”, “How are you?”, and finally “God, this is harder than I thought.”… It is so difficult being a working mom. It is so...

Self-care is an important way to take care of yourself - even if it just takes a few minutes to boost your mood.

I am lazy. Not about my work, or about getting things done around the house. But when it comes to my “beauty routine,” I am about as lazy as they come. My hair is long and dries relatively straight, so there’s no need to blow-dry or style it. And, because my skin has never been terrible (except for one unfortunate year in high school), I fall asleep without washing my face far more often than I’d...

Taking a nap is sometimes necessary - take care of yourself mama.

Don't Forget to Take Care of Yourself It’s different. I will be the first to admit that I was, in a health way, selfish before we had our baby. I wanted my time, my career, and my husband all to myself. We traveled to different countries, skydived, laid in the sun on some island beaches, and then – we had this wonderful, insanely energetic, and all-encompassing human that my husband and I want to...

Getting ready for baby is nearly a full-time job!

By the time this blog is published, I will either be in the throes of postpartum or waiting out the final days before Baby Keegan makes his or her arrival (UPDATE: Baby Keegan has arrived!). However, weeks prior to having the baby, I’ve got one thing on my mind: baby prep. I’m making my lists and checking them twice, making sure we have everything we need for baby’s arrival. An important part of...

Baby jail may seem endless, but I love it here.

Oh, the things a person purchases thanks to Amazon Prime. My ordering once got to the point that I was racing home before my husband so that I could sneak the wonderful packages inside and put them away. And when he would ask, “When did we get that?” I would simply reply, “We’ve had that for years.” He is not at all a shopper and the only reason he goes anywhere near a mall is to shop at Cabela’s...

My pump has become my confidante, the reason I slow down and take a few minutes to breath and refocus at work.

It’s a tale as old as time; a classic love story; and a remarkable account of how I fell in love ...with my breast pump. I fought it at first. I didn’t want to give in to the pump. It represented going back to work and spending hours separated from my baby. It was the next step in the journey, but I wanted maternity leave to last a lifetime. My breast pump is the most glorious, awful, and oddest...

Take it easy on that post-baby body - she has feelings, too!
Here I run on the treadmill, breathing rapidly with a mixture of anxiety (because I couldn’t find my “better” fitting leggings) and pure exhaustion. I’m beginning another year of New Year’s resolutions, and you can probably guess one of them – get back into a workout routine. If there was a conversation had between my disillusioned self and my post-baby body, it would go something like this...
Kids walk to school with backpacks.
As a mom with two small children, August means preparing for “back to school.” This means back-to-school shopping, determining after-school care for both kids, finalizing extra-curricular activities, trying to get everyone back on a schedule of going to bed early and waking up early…. All while trying to squeeze in a couple more weeks of fun and cross a few more things off the summer bucket list...
woman in field be who you are raylen blog

Witnessing the connection between a mother and child fills my heart with warmth. When I take the time to pause and simply observe a mom connecting with her child or children with her nurturing presence, something inside me softens and I feel expansion in my body. There is something so pure when I’m able to sense into that unconditional love. I’m going to be completely honest in this blog and have...